The assignment for Blogging 101 was to write a post inspired by the daily prompt, which today was A Moment in Time – telling the story behind the last picture you took. This is the last one that I’ve got:
Today my husband went away on a business trip and this is our daughter helping him pack. I called the post Home Alone, although, of course, I’m not alone, but with my girls. It’s also not really a home but a place, which is very comfortable, but still not our own. It’s always harder, when your partner is away (at least, I think so), but dealing with this in a foreign country is taking it to another level.
We already had to deal with waiting for daddy in Moscow – there he had to go to China every month for about 10 days. Let me remind you that it was in Moscow that I had our second child, so I was awaiting him at home with a toddler and a new born. Thank God, we had my mother-in-law to help us out, but, I’m sure you’d agree, it’s still not the same as having a husband around. These trips combined with a lot of overtime work were completely not working for us, so we pushed for a change and that is how my husband ended up with a new job and we ended up in Czech Republic.
Here we’re all alone. No grandparents, no relatives. I’d like to believe that by now I’ve found a friend or two, who I at least can ask for help in an emergency. Still, every time before my husband goes away I check that I’m stocked up on groceries and medicine against fever/soar throat/running nose. Last time he went away, both of my girls got sick and I ran out of food at home. Those were a couple of days, when I urgently looked for a nanny. Thankfully, I managed to come across just a perfect one – with enough energy for both of my kids. She had a trial hour with them while I managed to run to a supermarket for some overdue food shopping.
This time I’m more prepared. Food – check. Medicine – check. Nanny arranged during this period just to give me a couple of hours for myself – check. You can’t fully appreciate all the help you get from your partner until he’s not there. Although I’m at home with my kids, in the evenings I get some free time, but when he’s away – it’s babies 24/7. So a couple of breaks provided by a nanny – a must have for my sanity.
Even with all the preparations staying home alone is still not easy: I realised that I’m coming down with a cold this morning, my little one has been teething for quite some time now and doesn’t plan on stopping and the older one decided that, if everybody else is moody, why shouldn’t she be as well?
Today I was cooking while the baby went to the bedroom with a pencil, now we have a cave drawing, which I’m pretty sure won’t come off. I was cleaning the kitchen, while she spilled her soup all over the dining table, a chair and a large floor area (I thought the plate was too small to hold such an amount of liquid). I keep on finding bits of food and sweets all over the flat and the water puddles keep on forming all around (the baby thinks it’s funny how water spills from the cup on different surfaces). I accidentally ate a piece of play dough, which was disguised with bits of cookies on the table (that tasted horrible – I have no idea, why the baby’s trying to eat it at every opportunity). I was bathing them together at the same time (never works one by one) and the older one decided that I’m too dry. I was too tired to find words for what I felt about having my hair and top drenched in water. Now they fell asleep, but I’m pretty sure the teething will make itself known and I will have to sleep walk for another night.
What keeps me going? They’re growing, I can see that. It was much much harder a year ago. So, I guess, there’s light at the end of this tunnel and maybe in a future staying home alone won’t sound so daunting :)
P.S. In comments below, I told edelenroadtrip that I have a similar photo of my older daughter. So here it is – we’re packing daddy’s suitcase for his business trip, again. This was in 2010, when we lived in Hamburg, Germany. Time flies :)
This post is takes part in Every Day Mum Link-up on From Diapers and Tutus to Meetings and Boardrooms!