I saw an article by Daily Post today, giving a prompt to write a blog post like a list of things, telling a story this way. I wasn’t sure whether I would write anything like that, nothing came to my mind straight away. Then later I was at a friend’s house and she was asking me about our moves and how we managed shipments of our personal belongings and that gave me an idea..
I spent the last 14 (or is it 15 already?) years travelling and at first (when I was still a student) I pretty much lived out of a suitcase, trying not to get more stuff, than I could easily take back home on a flight. But then I moved in with my husband-to-be and we somehow accumulated stuff. We always paid for shipments ourselves, so some of it we had to leave behind. Not always easy, but in some cases very rewarding.
– Furniture
Moving furniture from Germany to China made no sense – flats are usually rented out furnished and we would spend more money on shipment then it would cost us to buy whatever we needed there. Our move was arranged on a very short notice, so selling it on internet had small chances. But we knew of a young couple, who just rented their first flat together. They were still students and it would’ve probably been hard for them to furnish it all at once. Knowing that our sofa helped to make their moving together cosier, definitely made it easier to leave it behind.
– Books
Ok, this is one of the hardest ones. I love books. Moving from UK to Germany to China and then (the most difficult one) to Russia, meant leaving more and more behind.. I already wrote about this heartbreaking experience here. So, moving to Czech, I’m sticking to ebooks until we find a proper Home.
– Kids’ things
When we moved from Germany to China, our older (then – only) daughter was 1 year and 4 months and by that time we had quite a lot of baby clothes and toys, she outgrew, car seat, etc etc. And we also had a pregnant friend. Of course, there was no question who needs these things the most. Funny thing, these friends sent us some of the stuff back, from Holland to Russia, when I got pregnant with our second child. Our car seat became kind of an expat as well, serving its purpose in three countries.
– Orchids
My favourite flowers. I had dozens of them, mini, huge, different colours and shapes. I was a bit crazy about tending to them – fertiliser, North-facing window, no drafts, daily sprinkling with water. They paid me back with almost constant blooming. (You can probably guess that I didn’t have kids when I started it. And when my first daughter was born, it was already a habit, although a time consuming one). I couldn’t take them to China, of course. But I gave them away to a good friend. They bloom in a very good family now, so I’m happy.
– Piano
Now, this piano (not a huge thing, but a full length electric one) had a very interesting life so far. It was bought by a Russian student in London. She left it behind, when she went back home after graduating, to another fellow student. He, in turn, left it to my husband (not sure why, as he never learnt how to play it, I guess it was fate). When we moved from UK to Germany, I wanted to take it with us as I thought that one day I would be more disciplined and actually sit down and remember whatever I learnt in my music school. Somehow, it never happened, then my daughter was born and then we were planning another move. One of our very good friends is a great musician. He plays a bunch of different instruments, piano one of them, and he also composes beautiful music. We left this piano for him and we never made a better choice. Now this piano actually lives a full musical life and our friend sent us a lullaby, which he composed for our daughter. It’s beautiful and I’m very grateful.
– Friends
This is tough. In every country we lived, I met amazing people, who I had very good times and shared interesting conversations with. And then you have to move, or they have to move, or both. But you know what – I’m looking at a bright side. I have friends in so many countries now! I connect with people, who make my life fuller and richer. And, of course, thank God, there’s internet!
– Family
And here we come to the last, but the most difficult one. During my first years away (and I was 17, when I went to become a student in UK) I felt completely lost and disoriented. That was the time when I made the best friends, who I still keep in touch with till this day. They supported me and made this time more bearable. Then I grew up, learnt to deal with it. Started my own family, made it grow. My parents and my sister have 7 hours time difference with me right now, but I speak (or text) with them every day. It’s like they’re in the same city, just busy working or something. Makes you think how privileged we’re living at the age, when half a world across is only a phone call away.
I love this piece. It has made me reflect on the fact that all our belongings do not really belong. :)
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Thank you! Yes, things don’t really matter that much in the end :)
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This was a great piece! I hate moving around as we always lose something in the process, including friends. I’ve done it too often now.
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Thank you! Yes, that’s one of the downsides of moving..
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Wow.. Your friends sending you back is so sweet.. But I can’t even imagine leaving the books and plants behind . Oh my God! That’s a beautiful piece indeed :)
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Thank you :)
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BTW nice theme :)
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Hehe thank you :) the blog is still a mess – need to sort out links and menus, but it’s a beginning already :)
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Yeah but earlier the better. :) you can get it done slowly once u begin!
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I love that, with so many of your precious belongings, you were able to leave them in appreciative homes. Friends were left behind, but you left behind part of yourself with them :)
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Thank you! I guess, the only way to not be upset about leaving behind so many personal things was to find something positive about it :)
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Something I can relate to…
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Oh… a touching piece. Moving on is much harder especially with the tokens of our past.
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Yes, very true.
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TY for this post! My hubby and I just pared down a life time’s worth of material goods to three suitcases so this helps a lot!:)
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Welcome! :) First time is always the hardest! Then after a while you start appreciating living light and without extra buggage :)
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It was a very freeing experience once we accepted it. Don’t know if ‘buggage’ was a misspell but it describes it perfectly:) Too much baggage can be like a fly you just can’t swat!
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lol yes, it was a typo, but I can see how it can work as well :)
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